Love Will Truly Set You Free

Just outside the bedroom window, there is a huge pole like structure on the far right of the window. In the groove that is between the window and the pole is sitting a grey mother pigeon. She sits on her layed eggs all day and all night without moving an inch. I kept wondering what she was eating, and spilled some grains for her to eat. But no movement. She sits there so still and and so at peace. Then one fine evening, as i was looking out of the window at the pitter patter of the rain, another pigeon comes with some thing that looked like food and put it in her beak. And he kept doing that for quite sometime. I guess till she was fully fed. Then that pigeon went away, and this mother still sits on her eggs giving them warmth. With her I also frantically wait for her little babies to hatch.

What amazed me the most about this pigeon and her other pigeon was the level of understanding between the two. One knew she had to sit and warm the eggs while the other knew he had to get the food. And not only get the food, but feed her the food, with the utmost patience. I just sit and watch in awe and wonder that God created Love, and put it in our hearts, but he also put love in the heart of all living creatures.

In my profession i often come across couples who are troubled and need a little help to rediscover their lost love and passion. The biggest problem that we humans have is taking each other for granted. And this doesn’t necessarily happen with just spouses, but it also happens in all our other relationships-siblings, friends, co-workers, parents, acquaintances…

As an abstract concept, love usually refers to a deep, ineffable feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.

But put all those normal meaning of love aside, and think of what love means to you. Can you truly pin point what it is…or do you have a vague idea of the preconceived notion of love, that has been told to you since you were little?

I personally feel like its a very gentle and soothing feeling that comes over your heart and soul. This feeling brings about an immense sense of belonging and oneness with the person or thing that brought about these feelings.  There is a feeling of complete and total amalgamation of souls when youre in love. But then thats my opinion.

In the true sense of it, love or being in love is truly considered one of the most deepest of experiences.

“I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.” Roy Croft

When we are in love so to say, everything seems perfect. In time when we begin to spend our life with the person we love or persons(parents, children, spouse, friends etc) we come to love their small habits and become acquainted with their needs. But, in time in getting to be so acquainted there is the point when things can go soar. When we feel like its just soemthing you have to do, rather than something you want to do. This usually happens, when the mutual love and respect have been tested over time. In the hustle bustle of life, we stop paying attention to the other persons needs and start focusing only and only on our-self. Focusing on yourself is a good thing, but not at the expense of hurting anothers feelings. We need to learn to find a middle road.

When a love is inhabiting you, or suffocating you, then its not really, love is it. It has changed. In love you dont need to change, you need to be you and be accepted for it. Love is empowering, not disrespectful. Love is gentle, not violent. Love is unconditional, not situation centric.

When you know you can be something, but your love makes you feel like you already are something, thats what true love is to me. Love can make you fly, support your flight and help you when you land face down.

Take the basic example of the pigeon on my window. The calmness with which the mother pigeon sits patiently over her little eggs and waits for her partner to bring her meal and feed it to her, tells me so much more about love than any human interaction i have seen. The purity and simplicity of love is embedded even in birds and other animals, all living things so to say. Then why we as human beings, the so called superior race of evolution cant understand the true essence of it. I think we have a thing or two to learn from our birds and bees and animal counterparts.

“Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.”
– Lao Tzu

At the end of this post i would like to leave you with the lyrics of The Wind Beneath My Wings sung by Bette Midler. Just a perfect and realistic example of how love can truly help you fly.

“Wind Beneath My Wings”

It must have been cold there in my shadow, to never have sunlight on your face. You were content to let me shine, thats your way. You always walked a step behind.

So I was the one with all the glory, while you were the one with all the strength. A beautiful face without a name for so long. A beautiful smile to hide the pain.

Did you ever know that you’re my hero, and everything I would like to be? I can fly higher than an eagle, ’cause you are the wind beneath my wings.

It might have appeared to go unnoticed, but I’ve got it all here in my heart. I want you to know I know the truth, of course I know it. I would be nothing without you.

Did you ever know that you’re my hero? You’re everything I wish I could be. I could fly higher than an eagle, ’cause you are the wind beneath my wings.

Did I ever tell you you’re my hero? You’re everything, everything I wish I could be. Oh, and I, I could fly higher than an eagle, ’cause you are the wind beneath my wings, ’cause you are the wind beneath my wings.

Oh, the wind beneath my wings. You, you, you, you are the wind beneath my wings.
Fly, fly, fly away. You let me fly so high. Oh, you, you, you, the wind beneath my wings. Oh, you, you, you, the wind beneath my wings.

Fly, fly, fly high against the sky, so high I almost touch the sky. Thank you, thank you, thank God for you, the wind beneath my wings.

What does love mean to you? Have you been able to be the wind beneath someones wings? Or has someone been the wind beneath yours?

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Photo credits: 1st pic-google images, 2nd pic Denio Stef’s photostream